How to Last Longer in Bed 101 | Aldult Toys Blog

It’s no secret that men have an easier time reaching orgasm than women. They respond differently to sexual stimulation, not to mention that premature ejaculation is the most common sexual disorder in men under 40. It’s no wonder that women tend to feel unsatisfied in bed. It can be really disappointing to realize that his pleasure is over before yours has even begun. While you can get him to finish the job in other ways, another solution is to help him last longer in bed.

Here are 4 methods to try:

1. Border

Edging is the process of getting close to the edge of orgasm and then stopping to calm down before starting again. To last longer during sex, have your man repeat the edging process as many times as possible. When he feels like he is about to cum, have him stop and wait a few seconds and then start again. Edging is largely about self-control. It is up to each individual to know when to stop all sexual stimulation and take a short break.

2. Add foreplay

Foreplay is talked about a lot, but did you know that adding a round of vigorous foreplay before sex can help him last longer? Adding foreplay can also increase the number of orgasms during a session. The male sexual response system consists of four phases: arousal, which is the increasing level of stimulation; plateau, which is the sustained level of arousal; orgasm; and finally, resolution, which is the relaxation period. After orgasm, men enter the resolution phase where their body goes through a forced timeout before becoming aroused again. Bringing him to orgasm during foreplay will allow plenty of time to prepare for the main event. Which means longer sex and plenty of time for more orgasms…

3. Try pelvic floor exercises

You’ve probably heard of Kegel exercises, which help strengthen your pelvic floor muscles and improve your chances of orgasm. It turns out that these same exercises can help treat premature ejaculation in men. Research presented at the European Association of Urology in Stockholm found that simple pelvic floor exercises improved premature ejaculation rates after 12 weeks in most men. Try doing pelvic floor exercises together by contracting and holding your pelvic floor muscles for five seconds (count 1,000, 2,000, 3,000, 4,000, 5,000) and then releasing. Another way to contract your pelvic floor muscles is to squeeze the muscles around your anus (as if you were holding in a bowel movement). Relax your pelvic floor muscles after each attempt.

4. Change position

If your man has a go-to position that always gets him off, switch it up. Cosmopolitan suggests missionary or girl on top, which can help many men delay climax. Also, when you switch positions, you should pause slightly and slow down your movements. You’re not getting as much stimulation during the transition, which allows your body to cool down and move away from orgasm.