The Ultimate Guide to Sex Positions: Cowgirl | Aldult Toys Blog

Let’s talk about sex positions.

Whether you’re just starting out with a new partner or looking to spice things up with an old flame, this series of guides is for you.

Next up we have one of the most famous positions in town: Cowgirl.

Cowgirl:

A sexual position in which the thrusting partner lies on his back, while the receiving partner straddles and mounts him to ride him to his heart’s content.

This is why we prefer the “Rider” position, which is more user-friendly for everyone.

The Rider is one of the most commonly practiced penetrative sex positions, but it’s divisive. For some receivers, they feel incredibly powerful when they come on top. They love the sense of control and authority they get from riding their partner at the pace they want. And they love seeing how they influence their partner’s pleasure from this perspective.

For others, it’s the bane of their sexual existence. They find it ineffective in feeling pleasure in their bodies, or downright exhausting – because it can be a real physical workout! They don’t feel sexy because they’re working too hard to endure the act instead of enjoying it.

There’s no shame in either way, but love it or hate it, the Rider position isn’t going away anytime soon. So let’s see how much there is to love about it.

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Note on conditions:

When we talk about penetration, we use the terms “penetration partner” for the person who owns the penis (biological or synthetic) and “penetration partner” for the person who accepts the act of penetration (vaginal or anal). In this article, the receiver is also called “the rider” for reasons that should be obvious.

It is important to note that being a receiver is not a passive, submissive role. It is an active, enthusiastic role. There is power in choice, and by choosing to invite their partner into themselves, the receiver exercises that power.

Additionally, the pushing partner is not just a giver. Of course, they also receive pleasure during the act. But for the sake of clarity and consistency, we have selected these terms for both sides of the dynamic.

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How to do:

Typically, the partner doing the pushing lies on their back with their legs straight. The receiver kneels and straddles their partner’s hips.

In this position, the receiving partner has much more power to set the pace than in others, such as traditional missionary for example. He can decide whether it will be more of a caress, a grind or a mix of movements. Meanwhile, the partner who is pushing has a fantastic view of his lover in great shape.

While this can be a great exercise for the rider, it can be tiring. Since it is still a two-person activity, the thruster can still get involved. They can push up to keep up with the set pace. They can also lift and support their partner’s hips so the rider doesn’t tire as quickly.

And because all the weight is handled at the crotch, both parties have their hands free to explore each other’s bodies or add a toy or two for extra stimulation.

Reasons why we love it:

– The receiver is responsible

– The propeller has an unobstructed view of his partner

– Everyone’s hands are free for more caresses

– More hands also means more opportunities to play with breasts, nipples or clitoris

– Receivers with clitoris increase their chances of orgasm

– The rider can push into his partner’s pubic bone to stimulate the clitoris

– Excellent core and lower body workout for the cyclist

– It is relatively easy to add a vibrator that completes the pleasure

– Versatility – many ways to change!

Variations to try

Classic rider

Facing each other, the pushing partner lies on their back while the receiver straddles their partner’s hips and pushes away.

The thrusting partner has their hands free and can stimulate the clitoris with their thumb or a well-placed vibrator. With the rider’s hands free, this is also a great position to help your partner get to exactly the right spot.

Horizontal rider

Once you are in the classic rider position, the rider gently leans forward until the chests touch.

Ideal for enhancing intimacy with more skin-to-skin contact and deep kissing.

Get up and grind

Adopt the horizontal rider position. Instead of long, languid thrusts, the receiver rocks and grinds against his partner’s pubic mound while being caressed from the inside.

Amazing dual stimulation option for people who enjoy more pressure or grinding clitoral stimulation.

Deep Squat

The rider squats down and places his feet on either side of his partner’s hips. He is then free to bounce up and down at his desired pace for a very deep thrust. The thrusting partner can assist by supporting or lifting the rider’s hips to reduce muscle tension.

A movement that requires energy and power. The challenge level is high and the reward is higher.

Reversed Knight

The receiver straddles his partner, facing the thruster’s feet. This can be an awkward angle for some people, so be very careful when getting into this position and go slowly until you find your rhythm.

It’s great to get a different angle that might hit even better than Classic Rider, depending on your body preferences. Plus, the view of your partner thrusting is *chef’s kiss*

Other tips and tricks:

– Have your partner thrust while sliding in a vibrating cock ring. Especially if you’ve never used one before, this is a great position to discover how it works for you.

– Stand near a mirror so the pilot can see how beautiful they are too.

– Build up the suspense with some light bondage or a blindfold. Consider using handcuffs or rope to tie up your thrusting partner so they can completely surrender to the rider’s whims. Be sure to set safe words in advance and play responsibly!

– Place a pillow under the back of the thrusting partner’s legs. This can reduce strain on the lower back and change the depth and angle of the thrust.

– Penetration is not mandatory. The rider position and its variations are simply great for grinding with or without clothes, teasing and tribbing (vulva on vulva play without penetration)

– Don’t be afraid to play around! Just because something worked in the past doesn’t mean you have to do the same thing every time. We encourage you to try something different, even if it’s something as simple as a slightly different angle or speed, or adding a small vibrator to the mix. You never know what you might discover about yourself or your partner when you allow yourself to play without expectations.