Costumes Role Play 101: A Guide to Halloween Roleplay | Sex

Halloween is just around the corner! Make the most of your spooky seasonal costume this year by incorporating it into your role-play fantasies.

What is sexual role play?

Whether you’ve done it before or not, you probably have an idea of ​​what this type of roleplaying entails. We’ve all seen the sexy and silly depictions on TV shows with characters trying to spice things up in the bedroom by surprising their partner with a costume. There are plenty of pornographic tropes that rely on the exaggeration of common and familiar social roles. From innocent and cheeky schoolgirls to stern authority figures, there are plenty of characters to choose from to get out of your head and into a new sexy zone.

Roleplay involves caressing each other’s largest sexual organ: the brain. The idea is to incite or enhance sexual arousal by putting you in a new frame of mind. The freedom of being someone else, the thrill of occupying a different position in the power dynamic with your partner, even the faint buzz of nervousness at the thought of feeling ridiculous or embarrassed about playing pretend as an adult—it all adds to the sweet sexual tension between you and your scene partner. Not to mention, this kind of exploration and willingness to be vulnerable with each other can create new avenues of intimacy in your relationship.

This gives you permission to explore

By taking on a role, you can explore other aspects of power dynamics and habits you adopt. It gives you permission to be something other than what you know yourself to be. Maybe this new role is more submissive than the one you are in the office. Or maybe it’s more assertive.

How does it feel to be the one giving the orders, or to let someone else take over entirely? Putting it down to the character you’re playing gives you extra leeway as you explore. You’re just trying out the role, after all. Once the scene is over, you can decide if it’s a good fit for you or if you want to try something else next time.

It’s a sure way to make your fantasies come true.

It can take you out of your comfort zone or offer a welcome escape from reality. And like reading steamy, taboo erotic fiction or streaming a fantasy in your head, it all happens in the safety of a safe space and a trusted relationship.

Remember, this is pure fantasy. As long as no one’s personal boundaries are crossed and everyone involved is having a good time, anything goes. Don’t think too much about how “appropriate” this would be if your scene were to play out in real life. Sure, it wouldn’t be appropriate for your boss to ask you for sexual favors in the office, but it can be very exciting to explore the taboo of such a scenario in private, with someone you trust.

Here are some tips to help you get started on your Halloween roleplaying adventure:

1. Talk about it in advance.

Don’t tell your partner in the heat of the moment. It helps to be able to mentally prepare for such a situation. Plus, you can make the mental preparation part of the fun. Get into character earlier in the day or at your Halloween party to build anticipation leading up to your one-on-one time later.

2. Define your conditions and limits.

IJust because you’re stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t mean you shouldn’t feel safe on stage.

3. Choose a security word.

You may not be doing anything very dangerous or impactful, but a safe word is more than that. Discomfort can go beyond the physical. Having this protection will contribute to everyone’s peace of mind, to use in case of psychological discomfort.

4. Declare the bedroom (or whatever space you are in) a judgment-free zone for the duration of your play time.

You’re partners! Being able to be vulnerable and silly with your partner takes courage and will ultimately deepen your connection. And by nature, a deeper connection will enhance pleasure and orgasm potential. Just saying.

5. Give yourself permission to be stupid. Not everyone is a natural actor, and as adults, many of us have lost the ease of pretend play. But it’s supposed to be fun! Get over the fear of looking ridiculous. You might be surprised at the exciting discoveries you’ll make about yourself and your partner when you do it.

And here are some of our favorite costumes and characters to consider this Halloween season:

Vampire / Human — Oh, the forbidden love between a deadly predator and his fiery prey! Bonus points if you invite a werewolf friend and make it a devilish Twilight-esque trio

Stripper / Client — Who doesn’t love having an excuse to wear those super high heels you love but rarely come out of your closet, to show off your assets. And you decide if and when your customer can touch the products.

Batman / Catwoman — Remember, Batman gives his partner blowjobs. It’s hot.

Aliens (any costume can work here!) — One of the most popular roleplaying scenarios of all. Recreating the thrill of meeting someone for the first time, getting to know someone new, discovering how to seduce them, and learning what makes them tick, all with someone you already know and trust? Yes, please.

Doctor or nurse / patient — A classic that can allow you to explore the more nourishing side of power games.

Fanfic Ships — Choose your favorite fictional characters and play how You I think it should have happened between them…

Dom/me / Submissive — All roleplay scenarios embrace some degree of kinky dynamics, but if you want to delve into the more classic leather and chain looks often associated with BDSM play and the kinky community, go for it!

Horrible Friday — Look at yourself and feel yourself through your partner’s eyes. Dress up and play the role of the other.

Student teacher — This is probably the most stereotypical option on the list. But it’s popular for a reason!