Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and while flowers and chocolates are a nice touch, they don’t exactly speak everyone’s love language. So how do you plan the perfect Valentine’s Day for your partner based on how they receive love? It can be tricky, so let us help you out with a guide to dates for each love language.
Words of Affirmation
If your partner receives love through words of affirmation, you’re in luck! There are tons of creative ways to express yourself with words…written or spoken.
1. For mutual sharing of feelings, writing and exchanging love letters is a fun activity and a great exercise in giving and receiving love through words of affirmation.
2. For a more grandiose demonstration, channel your inner Taylor Swift and put your feelings into a song. Pull out your guitar or piano and serenade your partner like they’re the less lonely girl in your Justin Bieber. Be careful, only do this if you know they like to serenade (I would personally dump you on the spot).
3. For a creative and low-key approach, consider ordering takeout and making homemade fortune cookies filled with personalized affirmations for your partner.
Acts of service
Show them you care by helping your partner with tasks they haven’t been able to do or that you know they don’t like to do. Personally, I would love for someone to shovel my driveway for me.
1. If your partner is the one who always makes dinner, take the burden off him and cook for him. Make his favorite dish or dessert AND do the dishes, we all know that’s the hardest part. Or if you really can’t cook, book a table at his favorite restaurant.
2. If they struggle with household chores, consider helping them check off some items on their to-do list. Drop off their laundry for them to dry clean, take care of some pending household repairs, or hire a cleaning service. Nothing says love like a professionally deep-cleaned kitchen. 😍
3. Provide the ultimate act of service and service them… Do you understand me? Do what they like, or better yet give them a toy who do what they love.
Physical contact
If your partner’s love language is physical touch, you can use Valentine’s Day as an opportunity to explore new forms of physical intimacy.
1. For a classic approach, get a massage. Book a couples massage at a luxury spa that will leave you both feeling relaxed and refreshed before a romantic dinner. You can also spend an evening at home and treat your partner to a sensual massage.
2. If you’re looking for an activity that gets you out of the house, think about something that allows for easy contact. Skating is an easy sport to do while holding hands, a dance class will allow you to bond, or going to a concert where you can sway to the music while hugging… or you could just go to dinner and kick your feet under the table.
3. If you and your partner are feeling a little adventurous, try some kinkier activities. Try temperature play, wax play, impact play, Shibari, or other forms of BDSM that you might be interested in. feel good. Try a blindfold to intensify the sense of touch.
Gifts
Who doesn’t love receiving a gift on Valentine’s Day? If your partner’s love language is gifts, you know what to do, but here’s how you can improve your gift-giving…
1. For those on a budget, take your partner shopping for something luxurious that you know they’ve always wanted but can’t afford. Of course, you could also just give it to them, but if they’re the type of person who loves to shop, you’ll have a great activity + gift.
2. For something a little more challenging, plan a scavenger hunt that leads to a “pot of gold” (or a gold bracelet, you know what I’m getting at). You can incorporate fun clues and goodies along the way. It can be as big or small as you like, sending kids on a hunt around the house or around your town!
3. Our favorite gift, of course, is a sex toy. Get her a sex toy that you can then use and experiment with together. There’s nothing better than a gift that you can use right away! We’ve already done the hard part and put together a list of high-end toys designed specifically for couples.
Quality time
The only way to celebrate Valentine’s Day is to spend time together. Even if you’re not physically together, you can still make time for each other.
1. Plan a romantic getaway. A short road trip, a weekend getaway, a tropical vacation, or even a short staycation—the world is your oyster! Taking some intentional, uninterrupted time for just the two of you is the perfect way to show your love to the person you’re giving this quality time to.
2. If you’re not a big fan of Valentine’s Day, take advantage of February 14th to run some errands. Even the most boring errands you’ve been putting off can be fun when you do them together. My favorite is going to Ikea, but you can spend quality time with anything from grocery shopping to washing your car to walking your dog.
3. For couples who aren’t geographically close, you can still enjoy some quality time this Valentine’s Day. Plan a FaceTime dinner or spice it up with phone sex. If you really want to turn up the heat in your relationship, gift your partner a long-distance sex toy!
Happy Valentine’s Day to all ❤️