Thigh jobs…?
You’ve heard of handjobs and blowjobs… but thigh jobs? For many people, they are a foreign concept.
Also referred to as thighing, thigh sex, and intercrural sex, in a subset of kinksters, explorative couples, and people saving themselves for marriage, thigh jobs are all the rage.
For the uninitiated, a thigh job is when the woman lubricates her inner thighs and then has her male partner slide his erect penis between her legs.
It can include vulva stimulation but it doesn’t need to, as the penile friction can be entirely thigh-focused.
Thigh jobs are an incredible sex act to engage in for a number of reasons, many of which I get into below.
In this guide, we’re going to dive into everything thigh job, and discover how to get the most pleasure from this under-rated, super-sexy sex act.
You will also see illustrations of the eleven best thigh job positions below. So make sure you’re reading this somewhere you are able to view a handful of tasteful, not entirely safe for work drawings.
Thigh Jobs, In A Nutshell
Lubricated thighs, meet penis. Thrust, friction, repeat, orgasm for one or both parties… and voila!
Now, why would two people opt for trying out a thigh job when there’s already so much fun to be had in the ‘normal’ stuff?
Because variety is lovely!
Not only that, there are several key benefits to thigh jobs that other sexual acts don’t contain.
Want some concrete reasons as to why you should try adding thigh jobs to your semi-regular sexual routine?
I’ve got you covered.
5 Benefits Of Incorporating Thigh Jobs Into Your Sexual Play
There are many reasons to incorporate thigh jobs into you and your partner’s regular sexual practices.
Here are five of the biggest ones.
1. Less foreplay is required for thigh jobs compared to penetrative sex
For the inevitable times when you and/or your partner are tight on time but high on desire, thigh jobs are a great back-up go-to that you can engage in when one or both of you really wants to have an orgasm, but don’t necessarily want to engage in the extended foreplay that penetrative, penis-in-vagina sex often requires.
So the next time one of you is really horny but you only really have five to ten minutes, grab that lube and hop to it.
2. Inner thighs are super sensitive, and it’s a surprisingly mutually pleasurable act
If you think about it, the inner thighs are exquisitely sensitive. Think about the last time that a lover kissed or caressed your inner thighs on their way to interacting with your genitals – felt pretty good, right? Well, the inner thighs are no less sensitive when they are well-lubricated and your partner’s hard, hot erection is thrusting away between them, all slippery-like.
Many women I’ve talked to who have engaged in thigh jobs with their partner have all said something along the lines of, ‘It just started as a way to get him off before bed, but then I found myself loving it and not wanting it to end. It was far more pleasurable and connective for me than I thought it would be.’
3. There’s a lower risk of STI’s with thigh jobs
I know, not the sexiest topic to throw into a list like this…
But if you and your partner are newer to each other or you’re not monogamous, thigh jobs have a reduced risk of STI transfer (compared to either vaginal or anal penetrative sex) since there’s little to no genital to genital contact (depending on where and how you engage in it).
4. The hotness of turn-taking sex
Because thigh jobs are a more one-sided sexual act, you’ll get to feel the uninhibited energy of your man taking his pleasure and being unapologetically selfish in his lustful groping of your body.
For many women that I’ve talked to about thigh jobs, that is one of their favorite parts about them. The way that their man grabs their body, and just has his way with them. So if that’s your thing and you’d like the opportunity to feel it with minimal distractions, you might love thigh jobs more than you even thought you would.
5. It’s new, unique, and just yours
Because thigh jobs are a new and unique sexual experience that the majority of people haven’t engaged in before, it gives you and your partner something new and special to bond over that is just yours.
Now, since thighs don’t self-lubricate (aside from potential, downstream vaginal wetness), you’ll most likely want to incorporate some kind of lubricant.
The 3 Best Types Of Lubricant To Use For Thigh Jobs
When it comes time to engaging in thigh jobs with your partner, I strongly recommend using a lubricant of some kind.
Now, of course there will always be alternatives depending on what you’re both into.
Perhaps you wear nylon pantyhose… or a soft, silky dress… or faux leather pants and your partner wants to feel the unique sensation that those fabrics provide his penis without the use of a lubricant. If that’s your/his thing, go for it!
But when it comes to skin to skin, penis on bare inner thigh thigh jobs, a lubricant of some kind is fairly essential.
Here’s the thing – lubricants vary in their individual strengths and weaknesses. And depending on what you’re optimizing for, you’ll want to use one lube or another.
So without further ado, here are the three best kinds of lube to use for thigh jobs, in different scenarios.
1. Water based lubricant
Water based lubes feel great but they tend to dry up faster (so you may need to reapply mid-session).
This kind of lubricant is also the safest option for condom use/vaginal use, so if you think you might want to transition into penetrative sex during or after, then definitely stick with a water based lubricant.
2. Silicone based lubricant
Silicone based lubricants can’t be used on condoms and will likely stain your sheets, but they feel super silky and tend to last longer than water based lubricants. So if you know that your man likes to go for a while, or you have a squirt blanket underneath you and/or aren’t worried about staining the sheets, then a silicone based lube can be a great go-to.
3. Oil based lubricant
If you’re optimizing for the most natural type of product, using an oil based lubricant (for example, refined coconut oil) could be for you.
Oil based lubricants are not good for condom use, and they also may need to be reapplied mid-thigh job, depending on the length of session.
My personal thought on which lube is best to use?
If you’re just doing a thigh job and you have sheet protection, use silicone based lube or a refined coconut oil. Or, if you like reapplying and/or a sloppier thigh job (more lube to play with) or you think you might transition to vaginal intercourse at some point in the session, then use water based lube.
Either way, when it comes to thigh jobs, and especially extended/lengthier thigh job sessions, lube is your friend.
Alright, now let’s get into the best and sexiest positions to engage in for your thigh job theatrics.
The 11 Best Thigh Job Positions
Ultimately, the best thigh job position for you and your partner will come down to two things. What is a) most comfortable for both of you, and b) what is sexiest for both of you.
Whether you’re a thigh job novice or a seasoned professional, here is a list of the eleven best thigh job positions that should give you more than enough ideas to experiment with.
1. Spooning
Ah spooning! The ol’ classic.
Generally the simplest and one of the most comfortable positions. In order to ensure no vulva stimulation (if that’s the kind of session you’re having), the man simply has to drop himself a bit lower so that his penis is more mid-thigh and less upper-thigh.
The spooning position also makes kissing relatively easy and gives the man the ability to touch every body part (calves, thighs, butt, stomach, breasts, etc.) that he adores on his partner.
2. X Marks The Spot
In this position, the woman lies down on top of the man, across his lap, sideways. So if you were to look at them from above, they would make a plus sign or an X, depending on your view.
This position is incredibly low-effort for the partner on top (just be there and occasionally squeeze your legs closer together), and it gives the man the ability to thrust to his heart’s content. He also has easy access to grabbing her butt and thighs. Depending on the weight of the partner on top, this might also be a bit more of a workout for the man and give him something to thrust against, gravity wise – which can be a big plus, depending on what he is looking to experience.
3. Belly To Belly
In belly to belly, the woman lies down on top of the man, face down and face to face. The woman can either be the one who lifts herself up and down to create the friction, or she can be relatively still and allow the man to generate the movement. Either way, this is a very intimate thigh job position and makes kissing very accessible.
4. The Toes Pose
The toes pose is the best position for any man who loves his partners feet or calves. In this position, the woman lies face down on top of her man, with her face near his feet and her feet near his face.
While the proximity of her feet to his face isn’t the only primary feature of this position (it provides a great view of her butt too!), it will certainly be a favorite for any man who’s into feet or legs in general. So if that’s you or your partner, let your freak flag fly.
5. Unified Glide
In the unified glide, both the man and the woman stand upright, and the woman faces away from the man. In this position, both of their hands are free to touch and explore. The man can grab onto the woman’s hips, touch her breasts, or grab onto her thighs for extra thrusting power. Similarly, the woman can reach backwards and hold onto her man’s torso. She can also reach down and stimulate the head of his penis with her hands whenever it pokes through.
6. The Standing Embrace
For the standing embrace, the man and the woman stand, and the woman faces towards him. This position makes it easier for the man to reach around and grab onto her butt for extra leverage. The position also makes kissing that much easier for both parties.
7. Doggy Style
Just like regular doggy style position, both parties stand up, and the woman bends forwards at the hips. This position can accentuate the hip to waist ratio of certain women. It also makes it easier for the woman to stimulate the head of the man’s penis as it pokes out between her legs.
8. The Cowboy
For the cowboy position, the man sits and the woman sits on his lap while facing away from him. As with most of the facing-away positions, this one can give the man a greater view of the woman’s butt. It can also be a good position for the man to caress the woman’s breasts.
9. Queen’s Command
In this position, the man sits down, and the woman faces towards him. So depending on the height of how the man is positioned, the woman can either (if she is more standing) stimulate his penis by standing fully erect and rocking her pelvis back and forth, or (if she is more sitting/leaning) she can put all of her weight on him and use her feet on the floor as the leverage she needs to move her thighs back and forth.
10. The Sleek Squeeze
For the sleek squeeze, the woman sits (on a chair, on the edge of a bed, etc.) with her legs crossed. One leg crossed over the other. Then the man penetrates the space between her two legs. This is one of the more passive positions (aka low effort) for the woman, so that is also a benefit.
11. Thigh High
For the thigh high, the woman lies down on a bed and brings her legs together, upwards. The man then kneels underneath her legs (facing her) and penetrates her thighs. For this position, depending on the strength of the man’s ejaculation, it is highly likely that his cum will land on the woman’s belly and/or breasts. This is also a more passive thigh job position for the woman.
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