Should I Prioritize My Career Goals Before Entering into a

Should your career be your only focal point before you commit to a partnership? Is it possible to balance a demanding career and a relationship?

While self-development is important before committing to a relationship, it doesn’t mean that you should put your love life on hold for years while pursuing your career. It’s always a great idea to complete your University degree or set up your business plans before you have any distractions, but it is not written in stone that this should always be the case.

1. Making career decisions as a couple can help strengthen the dynamics within your relationship.
2. When you both have input and an understanding of what’s to be expected, you are communicating as a team.
3. Offer support where you both feel heard and valued. This can help alleviate any concerns that occur during those demanding career moments.
4. It is also important to discuss how to compromise and implement mutual time management within your relationship.
5. Please don’t shut your partner out by being too busy to talk. Always take time to listen to their feelings when it comes to any discomfort felt within your partnership.

Many careers can be very intense and have high expectations that can cause concern in a partnership.

When you choose this type of demanding career, your partner will inevitably be a lower priority at certain times. That’s not to say that it won’t work out between you as a couple, but there must be reciprocated discussions regularly. Please don’t assume that your partner is always OK taking a back seat. Your relationship needs to be continuously nurtured, for the connection to remain in a healthy place.

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Setting Priorities: Career Goals vs. Relationships

When you are both supportive of each other during those tough times, this shows a very mature comprehension of one another. Unfortunately, this isn’t always equally reciprocated; and one person can feel very alone within their partnership. Evolving together in a relationship is the key to longevity because there will always be changes and things to deal with in life.

The timing isn’t always right when we fall in love, and there may be some difficult compromises to adhere to. It is paramount to see your partner as an equal and always remember that their life is as important as yours. You will both have to make some sacrifices and prioritize each other when you have a high-maintenance career. This is something that should never be overlooked.

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Many couples are getting married later today, which allows them to get their career in check beforehand.

When you have had some time to prioritize your career before choosing to get married, this can make things much easier and cause less tension when you do decide to commit to a relationship. It can also give you the time to understand that being in a partnership is something that you are now ready for.

It is vital when deciding to be in a committed scenario, that you can handle their specific career. Not everyone is okay being with someone who travels regularly, who is on call at all hours of the night, or who is in high demand 24/7 with ongoing business requirements. If you’re in a similarly demanding job setting, you may be completely okay with this, because you are both aware of what the job entails.

On the other side of the coin, if you have opposite schedules, or you resent their career priorities, this will be very difficult to maintain long term. There will be jealousy and insecurities, which could eventually cause you both to start checking out of the relationship.

When a partnership isn’t regularly nurtured, it can become a lonely environment.

It is extremely important to be realistic when it comes to dealing with your partner’s career. Romanticizing what they do for a living isn’t enough to comprehend how you will match as a couple for the long term. Being very proud that your partner holds a prestigious title is one thing, but you need to be aware that you may not always be the number one priority.

This can become an ongoing problem when your partner is consistently “on call,” having to deal with any type of emergency situation, or other high expectations that certain career choices come with. Your initial response may be open to accepting this arrangement, but this way of life can take a toll and bring out insecurities in even the most self-assured men and women. It takes an independent person to feel confident in this type of partnership.

As a team, you should always have relationship goals.

Having planned events, vacations, or date nights marked on a calendar, is an excellent way to maintain your relationship and keep it in a solid place. We all need reminders to prioritize our partners because life can be very busy! These dates must be adhered to at all times so that you both feel significant and loved.

As a couple with demanding careers, you must be openly transparent and consistently communicative. If something starts to bother you, please don’t let it faster and become angry about it. Sharing your thoughts and really listening to each other is essential to stay aligned as a couple.

Thank you, Sybersue xo 

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