6 Ways to Make Your Partner Wet | Aldult Toys Blog

For many women, natural vaginal lubrication is an integral part of arousal. But while “getting wet” can definitely be a sign that your partner is into it, never assume. Why? Because even if wetness tends to mean “of course I am,” to you, it can be a sign of arousal. East It’s totally possible to be wet without being horny, and it’s totally possible to be horny without being wet. Everyone is different. In other words, wetness is never a substitute for consent, so never skimp on communication, okay?

All this said, knowing how Helping your partner reach that lush, lustful spot in the sun can be a major asset to your overall sex/love life.

Humidity 101

Let’s break this down, shall we? When sexually aroused, blood flow to the vulva increases, stimulating the glands in the vagina to produce fluid. That said, fluid can also come from walls of the vaginal canal. This moisture helps lubricate the vagina, making penetration easier, and protecting against friction. But people with lower estrogen levels (i.e., those who have gone through menopause, those with certain medical conditions, or some trans people) may be less wet, if everNot to mention the anxiety, stress and relationship issues that can, naturally, make it harder to get wetOn the other hand, your partner’s body may respond involuntarily to stimulation even if it doesn’t feel like doing so at the time.

When it comes to getting your partner wet, keep in mind that a) it can take time and may require patience (you may know this from your own (experience) and b) everyone is different, so what worked for a past partner may not work now.

Once you’ve done the deed with enthusiastic mutual consent, consider the following 6 ways to get your partner wet!

1. Make them feel sexy.

Some of us just don’t feel comfortable with our pussies, and society’s gender image is to blame. So, especially if your partner is a little slow to relax and receive pleasure, make it clear how much they turn you on, how sexy you find them, and how much you want to be there. In short, do what you can to make your partner feel amazing and magical. For some people, just telling them that someone desperately wants them TO DO you just have to help them relax. And relaxation is a key ingredient on the path to delicious moisture.

2. Don’t skimp on foreplay.

According to sex coach Amy Levine, Women often need 20 minutes of foreplay to get really turned on – of course, this can be more or less, depending. If you’re more used to partners with penises, this may seem foreign to you, but you only have to look at your own body to remember. Kiss your partner up and down the length of their body, avoiding the clitoris. The idea here is to drive them wild, in a prequel-like way – perhaps even patiently drawing inspiration from the principles of Tantra.

3. Take charge.

We often forget that our hands are pure magic. They can produce a wide range of sensations, from soft, barely perceptible caresses to firm rubbing to deep penetration. Light, teasing movements can really build anticipation and can be a surefire way to get your partner wet. Start by tracing light, delicate strokes on the outside of your partner’s underwear. Start at the top of the labia and stroke their clitoris. You’ll know they’re turned on if their clitoris hardens and swells (or by asking for it!). Once they’re more turned on, explore different levels of speed and pressure, always asking for their input, of course.

4. Walk the talk.

Zara Barrie writes for Daily Elite has this to say about giving your partner a blowjob: “This is very important: You can’t be afraid to look at him. If you’re afraid to look at a woman’s vagina, you don’t belong there.” Of course, take this with a grain of salt, especially if you’re new to partners with pussies (and maybe still learning to love your own pussy). Know this, though: For anyone who’s very sensitive and prefers a very gentle touch, your tongue may be the answer. It can provide the perfect amount of pressure, and when combined with the natural moisture of the mouth, moisture usually follows. Try using your mouth on her other partner erogenous zones or just take the time to kiss. Some people get soaked during kiss!

5. Talk dirty.

The brain is often considered the most powerful erogenous zone of all, and rightly so. Your words can be as powerful as any part of the body, and even more so. Try narrative Tell your partner what you’d like to do with them, describing what you like about their body and how wet you want to make them. This is also a great creative skill to have if you’re trying to make your partner wet over the phone or sextingAnd if you’re ever unsure what your partner needs at the ninth moment, just ask. Timeless truth alert: communication is hot AF. Not to mention that it can serve as a natural transition to dirty talk while you encourage them to describe what excites them.

6. Lubricant.

For those who aren’t naturally wet, there’s no shame in getting lubed up. That’s what lube is for, after all. Water-based or silicone-based lubes are good choices because they feel like the glide of vaginal fluids, they won’t destroy condoms or gloves, and they’re safe for a variety of skin types. On the other hand (food for thought!), if your partner is great at self-lubricating but the sexual chemistry between you is stilted or off, consider skipping lube as a crutch, as it can sometimes take the place of patient exploration.

Once your partner is nice and wet, chances are you’ll be just as turned on. At this point, you could take her over the mountain with your tongue, hands, a toyOr a strap-on dildo. Or, you could grind against your partner without penetration, AKA rubbing or outdoor course, or “tribulation“in the case of vulva-to-vulva intercourse.

Bottom line: The best sex is the kind that comes from intimacy and isn’t rushed. Sex always has the potential to be magical and should be treated as such. If you two start from there, I know you’ll reach that lush, lustful place in the sun, together. I hear there’s a waterfall there.