5 signs someone might be good in bed – Girly Juice

I write sex toy reviews here all the time, but sometimes I wish there were equivalent reviews for sex partners: “Clumsy, but enthusiastic.” “Still needs some polishing, but has some potential.” “Keep a wand by your bed and the aftercare chocolate in the fridge. 12/10, no notes.”

Granted, different people can bring out different aspects of a person’s sexuality, and one man’s junk sex can easily become another man’s treasure trove – so these types of comments are probably not very useful anyway. Still, when I meet a new crush, I often wonder if they’ll make me scream in bed, or just make me sigh in frustration. There’s no foolproof way to predict this, but here are a few little things I’d be aware of…

They respect boundaries (no pouting)

Arguably, this isn’t so much a “good thing in bed” as it is a basic requirement for consensual sex, but either way, it’s a good sign. How do they react when you say “no” to them? If you express a preference or hard limit on anything (sexual or otherwise), do they acknowledge it, remember it, and respect it? Do they ever argue with you about your boundaries, push back against them, or ignore them entirely – and if so, how do they react when they’re accused? When you try to assess whether you have a good (and safe) time to sleep with someone.

They listen carefully and are emotionally attuned

so Great sex depends a lot on coordination, and I mean mostly focus on: Pay attention to what brings someone joy and adjust your technique accordingly to make it better and better. The emotional and psychological aspects of sex also benefit greatly from attunement – it’s difficult to feel intimately connected with someone who is detached in their own spiritual world.

For this reason, I far away It’s more likely to turn someone on if they listen deeply during the conversation, ask me good questions out of genuine curiosity, and respond/react to my emotional state while talking. For example, shout out to the guy who recently offered to bring me a box of Kleenex because he noticed I was tearing up during a sentimental conversation with someone else; that was exactly That’s the kind of thing I’m here to talk about and the accompanying instructions…

They are patient and able to live in the moment

Maybe it’s a hot take, but I don’t want to sleep with someone who constantly checks their phone on a date, and by the same token, I won’t sleep with someone who rolls their eyes and checks their watch while I tell them a story – it’s rude, disconnected, and signals an itchy impatience that’s incompatible with the type of sex I enjoy.

In comparison, it is crazily When someone is so focused on me during a conversation it feels like the rest of the world melts for both of us, and that’s sexy. For example, it showed me that after three minutes of uninteresting cunnilingus, they might not get bored and quit, but would be more likely to enjoy every moment spent there.

They don’t take themselves seriously

If I lightly roast a guy while I’m flirting with him and he reacts like I just slapped him, either my comment is truly inappropriate (in which case, my badmy man! ), or he’s more concerned with his ego/image/status than making a connection. In my experience, if someone’s self-esteem is so easily shaken, then me asking for adjustments to technique in bed, suggesting kinks I’d like to try, or even adding sex toys to the mix will shake his self-esteem. In the immortal words of Ariana Grande: “Thank you, next!”

they are good at touch

I love those early days in a new relationship before sex, so every encounter feels hopeful. This is Suo Hot, which is part of why I don’t like rushing into sex with new people right now. Let’s immerse ourselves in this sweet, sweet anticipation together, baby!

The way someone touches me before fucking me might be Very Whether they put their arms around my waist as we walk down the street, lazily massage my shoulders in the back of a taxi, or caress my inner thighs under the table in a restaurant. Are they good at “reading the room,” sensing when (where) I might want to be touched, and adjusting quickly when they cross a line? Will they focus on the things that make me sigh and melt and do more of them? Just as important, how does my body respond to their touch? Do I flinch or tense up because something isn’t quite right, or do I find myself relaxing into their touch and wanting more? These are very useful data.

What does the logo do? you Looking for when trying to assess whether you enjoy having sex with someone?

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