Cum together with this orgasmic method for deeper intimacy! Find out why you should be adding mutual masturbation to your sex life…
Are you ready to discover the benefits of wanking alone… together! Here are five reasons for you and your partner to give mutual masturbation a go.
What is mutual masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is when multiple people sexually stimulate themselves simultaneously.
It can appeal for a number of reasons, from voyeurism to vaginismus!
1. Show and Tell
If you’re in a new relationship or you’re simply looking for a way to reconnect with your sensuality, mutual masturbation is perfect for learning what makes your partner tick… or moan, in this case!
I’d recommend sitting across from each other, slowly touching yourself, showing, not telling your OH exactly what gets you off. This should mean that they can then apply this new sexy knowledge next time you have a roll in the hay!
This is also a great time to experiment with dirty talk. Try telling your partner what you like as you do it or even what you like about seeing them masturbate.
2. Explore intimacy on another level
If you or your partner struggle with penetrative sex for any reason, including pain, some mutual fun is a great idea! It really can be so beneficial to your sex life; everyone gets to experience pleasure in a way that suits them without feeling as though they have to perform, please or miss out on anything.
Don’t be afraid to whip out your tried and tested favourites, either! Let’s remember toys are tools, not competition. Plus, they’re an excellent way to discover what stimulation you really love. I’ve added an array of our bestselling sex toys that are perfect for introducing into your bedroom routine below:
3. Mutual (Masturbation) Benefits
Much like sex, masturbation has many benefits… and I’m not just talking about orgasms!
According to a study done by the University of Southampton, it’s the key to high ‘sexual satisfaction’. Participants ranked how satisfied they were with their sex lives, and it was found that those who participated in mutual masturbation were much more likely to rank higher.
Some of the other health benefits of mutual masturbation are:
- Improved Mood – Go get that endorphin rush!
- Better Sleep – Personally, I always sleep better afterwards
- Zero risk of STI transmission – No touching and no transfer of bodily fluids means you’re having safe sex.
- Improved Heart Health – Getting your heart rate up with a quick session is great for the ol’ ticker.
So, don’t just wank because it’s sooo much fun. Have a fiddle because sexual health is wealth!
4. It’s like watching porn IRL!
Most people like to have a cheeky wank while watching porn. But what if it was right in front of you, so close you could reach out and touch… well, that sounds like a lot of fun! Other than being great for pleasure and intimacy, mutual masturbation is wonderful for the ol’ wank bank. When you next choose to play solo, you can use those images of your partner pleasuring themselves instead of searching for porn.
And, if you’ve ever realised that hearing someone have a good time turns you on, you might have auralism. This fantastic sound fetish is very common!
5. Prioritise your pleasure
Potentially the most important reason on this list! Mutual masturbation gives you the opportunity to explore your own pleasure without feeling selfish. So often, we can feel the pressure to perform. Whether that’s the pressure to make our partner orgasm, to be some mind-blowing sex wizard, or to look ‘perfect’.
This sex-perience allows everyone involved to focus on what they like without feeling the need to put on a show. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still a very intense thing to do for the first time. A lot of people can feel self-conscious because masturbation is normally a very private thing. But if you’re showing this vulnerable side to someone you trust, then you’ll be okay .
Have you been convinced? Are you going to team up with your other half next time you want a tug?
Let us know your funniest or most embarrassing masturbation stories in the comments… We’re preparing for the next instalation of Confessions of a Wanker!