5 gender positions for joint masturbation

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By far, one of the hottest things in the world can feel sexually happy when you look at your partner (even better if you are part of making this happiness happen). Whether it means warm and vague, sensual feeling or a full-blown orgasm, getting off the car is one of the greatest joys of life.

“Mutual masturbation allows you to see your partner’s pleasure firsthand: how they move, what they enjoy, how they breathe,” feminist porn director and producer Erika Lust told Sheknows. “Masturbation in front of someone you trust is like showing them who you are watching who you are. This vulnerability can be as intimate as touch, and can also attract people’s interest.”

Yes, this applies no matter what relationship you are in (if any). For example, if you are in a long-term relationship, mutual masturbation may be a much-needed change in your sexual behavior to further strengthen your connection and intimacy with your partner. “Masturbation invites you to slow down and explore desires, without scripts, without performance and without stress. In a long-term relationship, this presence may feel like a rediscovery,” Lust explains. “So much gender is about giving or receiving, and that’s what you do both, even in silence. Curiosity is exciting.”

Masturbation with each other can mean touching yourself, or your partner or a mixture of both. It’s fun, versatile, low-risk and doesn’t require any form of penetration if you don’t want it. You can (and should) do anything with masturbating with each other, but if you need some inspiration, then you can ask for nothing. Continue reading five expert-approved methods to masturbate with your partner.

Sex machine riding straddle

What’s this? If you want invalid mechanical assistance, the motorcycle (starting at $899) is my ride or round trip. This is similar to riding a mechanical bull, with no risk of being surrendered except for the irritating penis. From the penetrating point of view of this sex toy, I can play with my clitoris while keeping eye contact with my partner who caresses her. If you feel more interactive, have your partner sit in the corner of the bed and place the sex machine in front of them for manual work or blowjob.

Why experts like it: “Being watched or watching each other causes heat. It’s raw, fragile and exciting for people,” Lust said. She explains that the position “adds a layer of irritation – trust and exposure make it even more intense.”

side by side

What’s this? This is a super and satisfying position that stimulates each other. This condition applies to penis and vulva play. I like to lie on one side of the bed while my partner stands on the bed with her legs slightly spread out. From this position, my partner can use his hands or toys to make me happy while using his hands and mouth. The best angle for connecting to the body parts may require some fine, but patience and practice can certainly do.

Why experts like it: “Side by side positions create a sense of synchronization; you are together, but you are also focused on your own feelings,” Lust said. “It’s mutual and independent.

Friction and riding

What’s this? To multitasking masturbate, have a penis partner lie on their backs. The vulva owners move them across the underside of their penis and move their hands down while placing their thumb on the clitoris. Add a light lubricant to make things smoother.

Why experts like it: “This allows one partner to play a more dominant role visually, while the other partner feels it,” Lust explains. “It’s an exciting dynamic and a dynamic of surrender without touching it. It’s about control and surrender, both equally exciting.”

from head to foot

What’s this? At first, it seems a bit strange to lie side by side on your back, head to toe. However, if you can easily reach each other’s genitals by straightening between your legs, this can be a very relaxing position. (Not to mention the wonderful perspective of your partner’s party place.) If you feel tired after your hands and forearm strokes or fingers are wrapped for a while (*hand raised*), this position allows for proper arm support duration.

Why experts like it: “Creativity takes over when both hands are free to explore. These positions maintain space for spontaneity and deep self-pleasure while maintaining emotional intimacy,” Lust explains.

Lazy

What’s this? This is a tried and tested location when you feel lazy. Lying next to your partner, then cut your legs sideways so that your genitals grazing each other (but not penetrating). I love feeling my partner’s penis when I rubbed my vagina and orgasm. Penis sex can be achieved from this passive position, but there is absolutely no need to bring pleasure.

Why experts like it: “This location allows for full eye contact, which enhances awakening and connection, especially when you are both exposed and appearing,” Lust said. “Eye contact, emotional deepening, which is more real.”

The version of this story was released in January 2019.

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