5 Fun and Sexy Vacation Activities to Help You Blow Off Some Steam

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times… it was the 2021 holiday season. While the holidays are a time of undeniable fun, gratitude, cheer, and togetherness, let’s face it: they can also be overwhelming, with all the shopping, wrapping, and visiting family and friends. Not to mention the ongoing pandemic and all the ways it can complicate everyone’s plans and enjoyments! That’s why it’s essential that you take some time and space this holiday season to unwind a little.

Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or in a committed relationship this winter-sunshine season, these 5 fun and sexy holiday ideas will help you release tension and strengthen your connection – with yourself, your love, or your partner in crime – whichever the case may be.

1. Sex toys

It’s no news that novelty in all its forms helps keep that proverbial spark alive. And what better excuse than the holidays to get excited and try something new? Enter sex toys from all the spots and scratches, baby. Whether you’re a sex toy veteran or a hot rookie with a toy box to fill, there’s always a shiny new toy waiting to rock your world. couple toys that will make your head spin, anal adventures which is just waiting to happen, at the cutting edge of discretion vibrators you can use it anywhere and anytime, there is Really something for everyone.

2. Box of fantasies

If you’ve fantasized about being tied up, gagged, spanked, or, hell, maybe even anchoring your partner (for starters), there’s a fun and sexy way to do it during the holidays, especially if you’re a little shy about talking about it. Simply write down a few of these fantasies and ask your lover to do the same. Then, slip them into a heart-shaped box (or a regular box), or a Christmas stocking, whatever works, and give each other one. If you find one of your partner’s fantasies too naughty (or sweet), find ways to modify it so that you both have fun. Think of it this way: You’ll learn more about what turns you on in each other, and you’ll probably have a revealing conversation or three. Then, all that’s left to do is make each other’s holiday fantasies come true! If you’re single, this list still has value: Write down things you can try alone, with a fling, or with a future partner, and then start by You.

3. A couple’s massage

We all need more massages than we’re currently getting. If you haven’t had a massage in the last year (or your life), this statement applies even more to you. Massages feel good, and if you’re in a relationship, you should turn off your phones and computers as often as possible to massage each other (I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s worth it!). Still, even if you’re the type of couple who regularly massages each other, it can be really nice to hire a professional every now and then. That way, you don’t have to worry about immediate reciprocation, or your lover’s shoulders getting tense. Not to mention, it can be amazing to know that you’re simultaneously relaxing. And if you’re single, don’t hesitate to get a massage, book a damn massage, now.

4. 36 questions

In Mandy Len Catron’s 2015 essay, “To fall in love with someone, do thisshe breathes new life into a series of questions Developed in the 1990s by psychologists Arthur Aron and Elaine Aron (along with others), to see if two strangers could develop an intimate connection simply by asking each other a series of increasingly personal questions. Catron’s essay is a detailed account of her experience trying the questions on an acquaintance she later married! Whether you’ve just met someone new and they’re up for such an experiment with you, or you’ve been with your significant other forever and still want to work on deepening your intimacy, these questions are the perfect excuse to light some candles, pour some wine, and dig in. It works. If you’re traveling solo, these questions can serve as interesting food for thought, and perhaps even a way to deepen your intimacy with yourself by thinking about them.

5. Role play

There are a million ways to roleplay (at least). Maybe you and your partner dress up and meet at a hotel bar far from the extended family gathering you’ve been subjecting yourselves to for a week or two. You both sit down and pretend to be strangers with an undeniable attraction to each other. You make up elaborate backstories. One thing leads to another and you end up booking a room for the night. Or, you’re a waitress and a businessman; an internet repairman and a landlord; a teacher and a student. Or, you take the opportunity to explore your rather taboo Santa Claus fantasy. Whatever you can agree on, explore it. It can also be a rather exciting way to get to know someone new, but always make sure there’s a foundation of trust and understanding before you get too crazy.

Bottom line: At their best, vacations are a time for relaxation and fun. So, give yourself a gift: deepen the connections that matter most to you, relax into your sense of playful sensuality, and be who you are. After all, that’s what we’re supposed to do. <3