5. Enhance women’s beliefs about sex

Have you ever felt like your sex life was more complicated than others told you? If so, you’re not alone.

For many women, beliefs about sex are shaped more by external pressures and social expectations than personal truths.

Many of us have ideas about sex that serve us badly, ideas that limit us rather than liberate us.

By uncovering these often subconscious, underlying beliefs and replacing them with more supportive ones, you can choose a different path. A path to a more authentic relationship with this important area of ​​your life.

Most people’s beliefs about sex limit them to a great extent

Most people’s default beliefs about sex (which they inherit from their parents, peers, media, religion, etc.) create significant barriers to their potential sexual abilities.

Like driving a car with the handbrake on, they are able to move forward, but their experience is always slower until the handbrake is released.

Most women grow up with conditioned beliefs about sex, such as “sex is dirty,” “sex is wrong,” “sex is shameful, a sin, and not for good girls.”

With messages like this received from every angle, it’s no wonder that women often struggle to fully feel their sexual desires.

The first step is to realize that it’s not your fault that these beliefs are running in your mind. You are honestly affected by them (through external influences around us).

But upon becoming aware, we get a feel for whether these beliefs actually serve us in any way.

They may have served us well for a while, but their useful time is now disappearing in the rearview mirror.

The following five beliefs about sex will be more supportive than the ones we all default to.

Special thanks to my wife, Demetra, who has been a major influence on many of the beliefs on the list below (you will hear more about her at the end of this article).

5 Enhance women’s sexual beliefs

Try the following beliefs about size and see how they feel.

Just like trying on a new pair of shoes, it may take some getting used to. But over time, you’ll find that they’re more comfortable (and prettier) than before.

Without further ado, here are five empowering beliefs about sex that will take you further in your pursuit of sexual fulfillment.

1. Sex is sinless.

Just like any other fundamental part of being human, sex is a natural part of life.

Just as we don’t wrong ourselves for needing food, sleep, or social connection, there’s no reason to think that sex isn’t an innocent, inherent part of being human.

Sex is one of the most profound ways we connect with others. Intimacy, vulnerability, and connection are pure, genuine human experiences, and sex is the natural, innocent, and beautiful expression of these desires.

2. Sex is sacred.

Yes, sex is sacred.

This is a less popular belief at the moment. Why? Because the default modern narrative about sex is one of sexual liberation in the form of having as much sex as possible with as many partners as possible.

Speaking from personal experience (and professional experience, having worked with thousands of clients over the years), deep exploration with one person in a monogamous relationship allows for a deeper and greater experience than cumulative sexual relationships. of satisfaction. Experiences with an increasing number of sexual partners.

While there’s always room for a vibrant, strong sex life that can quickly satisfy our needs in a limited amount of time (I’m looking at you, parents of young children), sex is something we can bring a lot to. love into.

When done with intention and care, sex transforms from a mere physical act into something with deep emotional and spiritual depth.

You can do things like make your environment as pleasing to your senses as possible. You can consciously slow down your sexual encounters to get to know yourself and your partner more deeply. Even outside the bedroom, you and your partner can make an agreement to strictly adhere to not leaking any kind of sexual energy outside of the relationship (through any form of “harmless” flirting with strangers, following social media accounts, talking to someone keep in touch with ex-partners, etc.)

The lights in the bedroom can be left on. Candles can be lit. You can buy ultra-soft sheets to help you feel more connected to your body. Your options are truly endless.

By bringing a level of presence and intentionality to your sex life, you and your partner can elevate your experience into something truly magical.

3. Sex is about feeling, connection and love.

The default relationship that women often have with sex is one of doing things, fulfilling obligations. This is actually the opposite of sex.

One of the more powerful beliefs about sex is that sex is about feeling, connection, and love.

Yes, it really can be that simple.

By simply showing up in the bedroom with the sole purpose of “making love,” you and your partner can experience depths you’ve never experienced before.

I once had a client tell me about how she cried at the end of sex recently. In her words, she didn’t feel any sadness, she had just had a stressful week at work and felt like this energy wanted to flow through her body. But the truth is, she was embarrassed by her emotional outburst. She wished this hadn’t happened.

I reminded her that good sex is about feeling, connection, and love…the emotional release she was showing was completely normal, healthy, and common. She has nothing to be ashamed of.

As we strive to become a perfect robot (just Dofulfill and fulfill our responsibilities), our sex life will always feel lackluster. But when we remember the deeper truth that sex is about feeling, connection, and love, a whole new world of physical and emotional freedom opens up to us.

We are soft-bodied mammals. We are meant to be connected. Become a whole person. And express our full humanity with those we choose to share this beautiful gift with.

4. Happiness is my birthright.

How do we know that happiness is our birthright? Because our bodies have the capacity for pleasure. It’s actually hardwired into our design.

How do we know it’s time to cry? We have tear ducts. How do we know sex is a fundamental need for our bodies to explore to the depths we desire? Because we have the pleasant nerve endings to prove it.

Unfortunately, standard adult life lacks that which brings them real sensual vitality.

Our senses are rarely stimulated. We eat food for fuel, but the food lacks love, care, or intention.

We go to work, fulfill our responsibilities…but rarely have time to rest, play, or enjoy.

Many women live joy-deprived lives because they either don’t know how to increase their capacity for joy or because they just go along with what other normal, responsible adults around them do. Either way, it’s a travesty.

Your life will be filled with joy beyond your wildest dreams. You can experience life as a vibrant, joyful adventure. Your senses will vibrate with joy every day.

The first step in restoring this aspect of happiness as your new default setting is to simply recognize the lack of happiness today and admit that you want more for yourself. You deserve more than the reality of your current life.

5. I am a very sexual person.

Another common belief that limits women’s sexual experience is the misconception that they are just “not that sexy.”

I have a deep compassion for this belief because I understand how women in the modern world have acquired this belief.

In a society that tramples over our healthy, nourishing, sacred sexual expression and flattens it into pancakes, sure, it makes sense to think, “Oh, I guess this isn’t just about me.”

I’ve even had clients come to me wondering if they were asexual (in fact, they just adapted to their minimized sexual identity because past sexual experiences caused them to act small and hidden within their sexual sphere Inside).

When you believe on an identity level that you are indeed a sexual person, a lot of things change.

You believe that you are inherently more worthy of pleasure and sexual satisfaction. You’ll feel a deeper sense of permission to explore the outer limits of your orgasmic capabilities. You become more curious about your sexual needs and begin to provide them to yourself (and ask for your needs to be met through a partner) in a more free and comfortable way.

If you’ve been having sex for years (or even decades) and it feels forced, one-sided, and boring, it’s understandable to question whether you really enjoy it that much. But as the old Turkish proverb goes: “No matter how far you go on the wrong path, always turn back.”

By accepting your identity as a sexual being and allowing your actions to follow, you will begin to advocate for yourself and meet your own sexual needs like never before. This in turn opens up a world of possibilities and new things to explore.

What to do next in your sexual awakening

If you need some quality support in your newfound sexual awakening…I’ve got something for you on your journey to experiencing sex beyond your wildest imagination.

My wife Demetra and I just launched a powerful new program called Eternal Glow. It’s a 12-week journey (that you can take at your own pace, in the comfort of your own home) that will revolutionize your relationship with your body, your sex life, and your life in general.

Women currently going through the process say they feel more radiant, happy and energetic every day. Many of them get more compliments from strangers (and friends) than they have in years.

This is a very effective and comprehensive program and its success will be guaranteed in your life.

If you want to know more, you can click here to read it all.

Committed to your success,

Jordan

poetry. If you liked this article about empowering your sexual beliefs, you will also like to check out:

– Eternal Glow (video course for women who want to experience the best sex of their lives)

– 5 questions to ask your partner for better sex

– How to figure out what your ideal sex life is like

– 21 things to do when your libido is different