Movies, music, and (most) mainstream pornography typically portray women as stars in someone else’s sexual fantasies, so it’s rare that we learn what they themselves fantasize about. But many women have extremely rich fantasy lives, and these often come to light when they are masturbate.
For many people, masturbation It’s a time when you have permission to escape into your own fantasy world, without any obligation to explain what you’re thinking, justify it, or even make sense of it. Because of this, it can lead to unexpected, illogical, and downright bizarre thoughts.
Of course, there’s nothing wrong with that. God knows why we think certain things when we masturbate, but the beauty of fantasy is that there are no rules. If you thought you were the only one having dirty or taboo thoughts in the middle of masturbation, these women will show you that you’re in good company.
Ashley, 23
“Either the previous sex I had with my boyfriend or the sex I want to have with my husband.”
Rhiannon, 26
“I tend to get turned on by things that are taboo, often involving Power dynamics: father figures, teachers, doctors, bosses, sex in public or on the sly. I think I get turned on by the idea of these people letting their primal urges take complete control of their bodies, to the exclusion of any logical considerations. These are my fantasies, but I also spend at least half the time thinking about actual sex I’ve had with people in the past.
Polly, 37
“The porn I watch.”
Kim, 27
“BDSM scenarios; always with strangers, not people I know.”
Nicole, 44
“I hate to say it, but being forced, being so physically desired that a man or two men force themselves into me, into my mouth and my vagina.”
Jenny, 33 years old
“My partner or a trio (the more hands the better!)”
Evangeline, 36 years old
“Male-female domination fantasies with oral and vaginal penetration. Sometimes I’m the woman, sometimes the man, sometimes I’m watching from a third person perspective. Voyeuristic stuff, like a guy secretly masturbating while watching a couple having sex. Sometimes rough sex between men, but almost always from a third person perspective.”
Ali, 36
“Memories of good sex, fantasies of sex with other people and/or fictional characters, fantasies of other people or fictional characters having sex.”
Gigi, 25
“An old professor who annoyed me.”
Tammy, 39
“Realistic sex scenes from movies/pornography.”
Jessica, 33
“The last guy I dated. I usually fantasize about his dick or just him fucking me. But always about him.”
Carissa, 23
“I consider myself heterosexual, but I think about women having sex when I masturbate.”
Sacha, 33 years old
“The fact that I’m naked.”
Dana, 29
“When I’m single, I date whoever I’m with at the time because I can’t wait to see them again. When I’m not single, I date women. I’m straight.”
Sloane, 28
“Honestly? What kind of erotica would qualify as ‘non-consent/reluctance’? As a survivor of sexual assault, being able to reprogram my brain to control situations like the one I was assaulted in is both empowering and important.”
Jeanette, 39
“I’m a visual person, so I watch porn 99.9% of the time while I masturbate. I like all types of porn and usually pretend to be the girl or boy (or whoever depending on whether it’s gay or straight porn) while I watch. Although the best session was when my battery died and I thought about fucking this shy and awkward ex-colleague (female).”
Anna, 22 years old
“I watch bondage porn even though I don’t want most of what happens in it to happen to me in real life.”