12 Sexting Tips That Will Drastically Improve Your

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When it comes to sexting, many people don’t know where to start. So, we’ve put together this list of sexting tips to help you get started. Let’s get started!

1. Forget the roadmap

There are no magic words that will turn your partner on…it’s more complicated than that. Everyone is different, so what turns one person on might turn another off. It’s more about finding the right combination of time, place, and content for your sexual partner.

2. Start Slowly

Don’t jump into the hot, heavy, and raunchy phase too quickly. Take your time to build sexual tension—like a trail of sexy breadcrumbs.

If you start sexting right after a date with your boyfriend or girlfriend, you’re missing the point. Sexting helps build sexual tension before you meet up. Even if it’s just one sweet word.

Essentially, it can be used as modern foreplay. You can tease each other and talk dirty all day long – so that when you meet up, you’ll want to rip each other’s clothes off.

3. Stay in your comfort zone

Don’t go on and on about porn unless you normally do that. You need to do that to get the ball rolling – anything else will just expose your struggles and won’t be as heated as you’d like. However, this is a double-edged sword – you need to consider who is on the other side of the conversation. If your partner isn’t into porn, then you need to respect that (so you don’t anger them).

4. Choose your words carefully

You’re not aiming for Hemingway or a Harley Quinn novel, but your lingo should include the right amount of verbs and adjectives, not to mention proper nouns (think “pussy” instead of “vagina”), and we’re not in medical school. If you need help with that, this guide “50 Swear Phrases – A Beginner’s Guide” will help.

5. Keep it simple

Don’t make text messages too long. Break them up and spread them out at just the right times to keep your partner excited. Besides, no one wants to read an entire text in one go. Believe it or not, people can even get bored with a whole wall of sexy texts.

6. Send text messages at the right time

Don’t send sexy photos when you know they’re meeting. If you really need to get them excited, send sexy plain text messages. About the photos…

Unless you are 100% sure they won’t be a jerk and make the photos public later, only send nude photos that don’t include your face.

7. Turn off AutoCorrect

It’s cool to giggle and grin while sexting, but not when you accidentally send a message like ‘I’m so desperate to hide from you.’ Don’t use poor spelling or grammar, though.

Do not use abbreviations.

No means no.

8. Avoid drunken sexting

We’re not as sexy as we think we are when we’re drunk. Not to mention, it makes other awkward mistakes common, like oversharing, expressing “I’d die for you” love, and even calling someone by their ex’s name.

9. Keep your promises

Actually, do what you say. If nothing else works, don’t over-fantasize about something that’s impossible to achieve. Like, “I’m going to have sex with you with a bunch of money I stole from the bank.” But if you say you’re going to give them an erotic massage and spend the entire evening—yeah, you better keep your word. Unless, of course, you’re doing something anonymous and will never meet up. Then, I guess that’s a sexting tip that doesn’t count.

10. Stay away from emojis

No. I don’t care if the “point + ok sign” makes you smile like a 4^day Graders. 99.9999% of the time, they just don’t look good. If you think you’ve found the 0.0001%, there’s a good chance you’re still in the other group.

11. Include Them

Ask them to text you back. Don’t make it a one-sided activity — although it’s easy to get lost in your own head and fantasies. An easy way to do this is to ask questions. A big way is to play games. If you need sexting game ideas, Here is a great article that may help you.

12. Change of location

Don’t just sext on your days off or during your commute. Text when they least expect it. But if you know when they’re at work, make sure you have a system in place to keep them from getting in trouble.

Do you have any sexting tips you’d like to add? Please share them in the comments!