10 Ways to Spice Up Valentine’s Day When You’re Single | Sex

Valentine’s Day is the most romantic day of the year, right? For some, perhaps, especially if you’re in a relationship, falling in love, or have a new crush. But for others, even those in a happy relationship, the occasion is worthy of a joke. In fact, as with most things, it’s a matter of personal preference.

That said, if you’re single on Valentine’s Day, it’s totally normal to feel a little lonely, grumpy, and/or tired of it all. Especially as we approach year three of the pandemic, hello. But be warned: There’s no Nothing It’s wrong to be single on Valentine’s Day, or any other day.

Here are 10 hot ways to spice up good old Valentine’s Day when you’re single, horny (and potentially moody).

1. Flirt with your crush online

I’m going to jump in here and say that while being single is something we all experience need At different times in our lives, we have needs. Whether you’re looking for love or just a little attention (and maybe even a little action), embrace it. If you’re one of the few holdouts who haven’t installed Tinder or any of the billions of other dating sites/apps yet – but you secretly want to – go ahead and give it a try already. Don’t take it too seriously, but at least see what’s out there. If you’re already well-versed in the online dating circus and have managed to narrow down your list to one or two love interests, I recommend flirting all night long via phone, chat or – if you trust them – kinkier videos.

2. Treat yourself

You don’t need a date to get lucky on Valentine’s Day, or ever. Go ahead and up the ante with a new toy. The fun is yours 365 days a year, after all. So reorganize that toy box and get ready for some good times, baby. Whether you need warm environmenta few dildo delightsor a anal adventurejust pull out your favorite toy and wiggle your way to Valentine’s Day bliss. Damn, wiggle your way to every day happiness.

3. Do you love yourself?

Self-love can take many forms. Feel free to treat yourself to a face mask, a DIY manicure and pedicure, a relaxing bath, candles, incense, relaxing music—whatever takes your fancy. Or, Covid-permitting, head to a local spa and schedule a massage. Or, cook yourself some soul-nourishing meals, whatever they mean to you. Deep down, you know What you need. And/or, if there’s something you’ve been dying to get but have been too afraid to treat yourself to, do it. Whatever you do, treat yourself.

4. Watch a hot movie (or three)

Maybe it’s high time you had a themed movie night. Maybe it’s romantic westerns, 1920s Paris, 1980s romantic comedies, 1990s romantic dramas, or just movies that make you want to touch yourself (i.e. The SecretaryOr Body heat). Or, pandemic permitting, you can head to your local movie theater and see some of the latest movies with the rest of the crowd.

5. Write a letter to your ex and burn it

If you’re still struggling with some anger or heartbreak, do yourself a favor and do it intentionally this Valentine’s Day. Write a letter to your ex with a good old pen and paper, going through all the unfinished business that’s been on your mind, and then burn that crap. It can be incredibly therapeutic. Love isn’t all chocolate and flowers. Sometimes you just have to let it burn so that something new can grow in its place.

6. Learn your love language

Have you ever heard of the language of love? The term has really gained popularity in recent years. Essentially, your love language is how you prefer to give and receive affection from others (romantic or otherwise). Get Gary Chapman’s book The 5 languages ​​of love and commit to learning a little more about how you work. Knowing your love language is a great way to gain a deeper understanding of what will truly make you happy and satisfied in a relationship.

7. Unplug for a day

Social media is essential, yes. But it can also be addictive and toxic. It has the power to make even the most confident and independent people compare themselves to others. Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to unplug every year, if you ask me, and a great way to avoid the bombardment of mind-melting love messages. Go one better and go for a hike, take a stroll in a park, or just stay outside and get some fresh air. Connecting with nature (in any way possible) can do wonders for grounding you and giving you a new perspective.

8. Be creative

Whether it’s an old painting you never finished, a novel you didn’t get around to working on, or a piano that taunts you as you walk past, take that shit out of the box and make an appointment with your inner fire, your creativity. Need to start things off with a less direct line to your creative ability? There’s a adult coloring book for that. Or maybe try this Jason Momoa a. After all, he’s single now too. You have something in common.

9. Create Valentine’s Day cards and send them

Giving physical Valentine’s Day cards isn’t just for little kids. After all, there’s nothing better than receiving Valentine’s Day cards from your friends. Plus, if you’re short on ways to tap into that creativity, this one’s perfect. Why not channel your affection by creating cute Valentine’s Day cards for everyone you love? After all, love has a way of boomeranging. And if you have a crush on someone, you could even send them one, anonymously… or not. YOLO, baby.

10. Throw an anti-Valentine’s Day party

There’s no law against anti-Valentine’s Day parties. Chances are, you’re not the only single person you know, so why not recruit the singles in your life (pandemic permitting) and get together for drinks, chats, and stories of being single forever? Let’s celebrate being single together. And if you’re looking for a partner, don’t forget to invite the (single) people you’re interested in, too!

Bottom line: Every day is for each of us. So, seize love this Valentine’s Day by doing justice to love in your Life: give and receive as you wish. Because that is the nature of life.

A love! <3