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Dear Sybersue,

Thank you for posting the informative video. I am a subscriber to your YouTube channel. This video “Don’t let yourself be on the bench” caught my attention. Sadly, I do allow myself to date or build a relationship with the guys I have to put myself aside! I admit that I’m too tolerant of men. Whether I’m waiting for their last-minute phone calls at home or visiting late at night, I can always provide them. I allow this bad behavior and continue to bring them the benefits of doubt.

How do I improve my self-confidence and confidence? I was responsible for sitting myself on the burner behind. It’s frustrating that I’ve been unable to keep the effort I deserve. I admit the manipulation I got from these men, but I did not make any changes. Whether it’s constantly getting stuck or having other repetitive problems, I’ll still grab their excuses and reasons.

I don’t understand why I’m getting rid of these negative situations so challenging. Why don’t I have more respect for myself?

Thank you, Cheryl

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Hi Cheryl,

You admit that you allow yourself “Sit on the burner in the back. ” You also know that the people in your life are not the priority for those you allow.

Some people deny that they are not a priority in their relationship. The fact that you have ownership means you want to find a solution. Understanding the role you play in these relationships is crucial to finding the love you deserve. When you first respect yourself, you will clearly see that someone doesn’t have the greatest interest.

Unfortunately, there are some controls out there looking for vulnerability in their partners. You think you are compromising to maintain peace and avoid conflict, but it is a one-sided partnership. The problem here is that you have been silent about your needs and there is no reward. A healthy relationship is about reciprocating love. Cheryl, you are the one who makes all the dedication here and must change.

Your past self-esteem problems often lead to these relationship problems.

The first change you need to make is to reach the root of the problem. This will help you understand why your needs change in your relationships. This is an intensifying issue, which means it’s time to talk to a therapist or counselor. It is important for you to understand why this has become a negative pattern in all partnerships.

I’m sure you’ll be confused and don’t know how you got here. Often, this is due to some form of past abandonment or early refusal to you deeply hurt you. This can affect your thinking and behavior for years. Negative internal conversations can debilitate you and trap you in unhealthy places. You have to change your mindset to change the direction of your life.

Here are a few things you can do to start the process:

1. ask for help. When your confidence and self-worth are exhausted, counseling is necessary and very important.
2. Put yourself in the company of a strong woman. This will help you understand how to respect your boundaries by observing their behavior. Don’t be afraid to ask them for advice.
3. Many support groups can help people deal with low self-esteem and relationship issues. (Google options in your city.) These are great platforms because they help you to be clear without feeling judged. You will find yourself not alone and understand that others are dealing with similar situations.
4. Free party groups in your city offer activities and gatherings for men and women. This is a great choice for you to go out and relate to new friends. The more social you do, the more confidence you have.
5. Search YouTube for more videos about your situation. The more information you receive, it will help you understand how to move forward in your life.
6. Find a purpose in life that keeps you busy. This could be a DIY project at home or a fitness goal. When you are productive and have challenges you face regularly, you build your own self-esteem. This will stop you from providing energy to the wrong person because you focus on other things. You will understand the value of prioritizing your needs without getting lost while constantly soothing your partner.
7. At least 6-12 months of appointment is required when implementing these changes. When you decide to venture back there again, you will have more clarity and new boundaries.

It’s never too late to learn new knowledge about yourself. We are improving every year. Everyone has gone through a period of suspicious behavior, which is part of the ever-evolving development of humanity. Please let me know what the situation is. I wish you a lot of happiness in the future.

I wish you happiness and great love.

Thank you for your writing.

*Please watch the following video for more information about Cheryl’s questions:

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